Managing Expectations of Wisdom Beyond the Courtroom
As a judge, many people expect me to be naturally wise; they expect for me to be able to tell them exactly what to do for practically every situation in their lives, because after all… I’m a judge!
However, I have the good fortune of understanding something that many others do not: true wisdom comes from above from God!
As a woman of faith, I lean and depend on God and His word in the Bible for the wisdom to know what to do and how to do it. When I need wisdom, guidance, and direction, I seek Him through reading scriptures and through prayer, and He always speaks to me with exactly what I need at the time. Without His wisdom, which is pure, peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere (James 3:13-18), I would be completely lost!
Divorce is a situation in which you are going to need a lot of access to things that only God can offer: wisdom, direction, love, healing, and joy, just to name a few. I am reminded of a story in the Bible that fully encompasses this concept to help you understand just how much
He desires to keep you in the midst of such a hard transition.
In your own relationship, could it be that God has allowed the break-up of your marriage because He has something better for you?
Could it be that where He is taking you in life, in ministry, in your relationship with Him, and in your destiny, you would be unable to go with your current relationship?
Could it be that the relationship was doing you and/or your children so much harm that God allowed it to dissolve to protect you spiritually, emotionally, and even physically?
Could it be that even though God gave you warning after warning about your spouse before you got married, and you got married anyway because you wanted the person so badly, but He was only going to allow you to be out of His will for so long before He allowed it to fail? If God has “rejected” your spouse, it has to be for a really good reason.
You might not realize what the reason is until a year or two from now, or you might not realize the reason until you get to eternity. However, just know that as painful as this situation is, it will work together for your good in the future (Romans 8:28).
To navigate the complex legal process ahead, you need to get to a healthy mental state that will allow you to function clearly and take care of your business, and I want to help lead you there.
It is my goal to help you figure out where you are emotionally, why you are feeling what you are feeling, and how to get to a better place of spiritual wellness and wholeness. I’m going to do all I can to help you gain a new perspective of life, of love, and of what your future can be.
I will show you how relying on God as you go through a process like this can be the absolute best thing you’ve ever done, because it is the only way to survive something so tragic with your sanity intact; I see a striking difference between the outcomes of my friends and clients who go through divorce hand-in-hand with God and those who try to brave the storm alone.
Finally, I will equip you with tools and wisdom that you need to win and come out healed or at least well on your way to it and whole on the other side. If you will trust me to walk with you through this process, by the end of it, I guarantee that you will be less fearful, less bitter, more understanding, more at peace, saner, and in a much better position to set out to establish the future that you desire for yourself.
As we discuss this topic, I do not write alone; I pray through every aspect of it and ask God to show me what to say and how to say it so that these words will not only comfort and encourage but empower and equip people for wholeness and wellness.
If I’ve done my job, you will better understand the process of divorce legally and emotionally you will have a new sense of hope and expectation, and you will be at a place where your faith will be stronger than ever.
Thank you for allowing me the privilege of accompanying you on your journey From Divorce to Deliverance.
A Prayer for Direction…
Before moving on to the next chapter, pray this prayer aloud: God, I am in the midst of one of the most difficult and challenging situations in my life, and I am seeking Your wisdom, guidance, and direction for how to move forward.
Help me to acknowledge You in every decision that I make, every action I take, and every resolve I establish, knowing that you will direct my path.
I trust You with my life, and I am depending on You to make it through this season. Lead me through it, Lord, and I will follow You. Amen!
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